by Mariita J. Ongoro,
Nearly everyone has those days that they are the happiest, everything seems to go well as planned and more rewarding. Such times, you will feel like you own the space and life is running deep in your vessels. Times when you’d laugh loudly, share every bit of your experience, show much care, show up for you and them. I would say it’s intra-relation positivity era.
Days your business thrives with much profits, given stipends without delay so you won’t run late of paying bills, times when friendship soars and never lets you down. In fact, your relationship with your troublesome lover seems to have been renewed. It’s like a life full of hope and promises that come to pass without meanders and valleys. Long live those days.
On the other hand, there are just normal days. Times when you’d surely have something eating you within, a little disturbance but manageable. You are functioning normally; at least you laugh or smile and never failing to attend to your important tasks. At such times you’d whisper, “Today I have migraines, somehow fatigued, feeling dizzy but I have to run errands.”
You’ll have a bunch of assignments awash but you’d still attend cinema, binge watch that series. Your friends would be asking you for help and you’d say, “Honestly I’m busy but I’ll try.” Everything you think or do is normal in a normal life.
Here comes moments of frailty. Days when your nerves are painful and horror-striken.
Moments of desperation, distress and for sometime, you’d think of leaving earth for mass. Mood swings atleast for ladies, and demotivation for nearly everyone. These darker days are a hell in a beautiful world.
Days of grief, constant failure regardless of tenacious trials, days of bumpy roads with your land lord, heartbreaks and jilt. Domestic violence, marriage separation, hatred and haunting, strikes and streets coated with bloodshed, heightened Gender-based violence, civil wars and post election violence, pandemics and terroristic attacks are all descriptions but not limited to several demonstrations of darker days.
Psychology reports that atleast everyone exhibits depressive symptoms once in a while. If these states are overwhelming and no point of escape, depression dares to sting men and women with a venomous defeat of stability. Unless help is given in due time, life then presents itself as meaningless kind of pursuit. Some would want to live no more.
How to live during the darker days; it all depends with the perception. That it is not how things are but how we think them through-argues psychology. In other words, we will always have brighter, normal and darker days but how they affect us, is determined by how we think towards them.
“Good or ill, life is life, you only realize that when you have to risk it” says a quotation.